2012: “The Bully”

In this short blogpost I’ll be writing about the phenomenon of bullying. And I’ll be looking at what creates situations of bullying, and finally I’ll be answering the question who is really the bully. Bullying is a social phenomenon. It … Continue reading →

2012: Diverse opinions vs reality

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Diversion. It’s given many beautiful names and meanings. And ‘having your own opinions’ on things is perceived often as a sign of maturity or intelligence. But what does diversified opinions really imply? What are the consequences of having a society … Continue reading →

2012: Relationship between the mind and the physical

This is something I’ve always seen as being generally unnoticed and ignored, and what cause so much harm and bullshit in everyones life. Which is: what exactly does the mind is, and what is the relationship between the mind and the physical reality.

We have a tendency to identify ourselves with our mind. And thorough centuries many cultures has created many ideas and beliefs about the mind, and the nature of ‘who we are’. We have all the beliefs in the soul, in the afterlife — which concepts are the basis of a variety of belief systems and religions. In the ‘mind over matter’ arena we have teachers and gurus that claim that one can ‘bend the spoon’ of reality through mastering certain techniques, behaviors or approaches to life. From western authors and motivational speakers, through masters/gurus from the east, to channellings. All those things are centered around concepts that define the mind as superior in relationship to the physical substance/reality. It’s basically all concentrated around the same concept: control.

The want to control reality with our mind. The idea that somehow there is a connection between what we think — and the substance/reality that we live in day by day, breath by breath. Now here we can digress a little and have a look at what is the reason that we so blindly look to have control over our reality — which is — fear. A desperate want to control something that we cannot control — obviously comes from fear. Without fear — there would be no obsession to control reality. And I call it an obsession — because to make out gods, and all kinds of ideas in the mind, and to blindly believe in them, even gather together and build buildings to do that just shows how much fear obsessed we are. All because we think that through prayer we can control reality with our minds.

Which in itself (the extensive fear) shows that we realize the relationship between the mind and reality. That the mind is completely inferior to reality, and is just a ‘simulation box’ in which we live in, but it is completely separated from reality, and has no impact on it. What has impact on reality is what we do through physical substance that we also consist of (our hands, voice, bodies etc.). The part that is ‘real’ by it’s very relationship with reality is the physical/substance part of us. The mind is something that is there controlling the physical — yet has no direct impact on substance. Which creates the great fear, that all religions try to comfort. The fear about death of us, as the mind.

So in a way all beliefs and ideas about afterlife, and the superiority of the mind over matter function as ways to hide/suppress the fear that we experience when realizing the nature of the relationship between the mind and physical substance. Therefore all such beliefs and ideas, are evil by their very nature. Because they serve as a way to escape seeing who we are in fact and who and what every other living being is. In other words, instead of realizing what is obvious we run in delusion to suppress the fear, that the physical reality shows us ‘in our face’. And in that attempt to escape we destroy and harm other living beings.

Because, to run away from the realization of the obvious nature between the physical and the mind — is to deny to see reality and life. As life is dependent and based on physical substance — not the mind. Life is in every plant and in every bug. Yet in our minds we don’t even value that, as that is what we have been taught. And how come have we allowed ourselves to believe that life is not valuable? That plants, or bugs don’t feel or experience equally to a dog or a cat for instance? How come we have categorized animals for which we care, and those that we don’t care about? It’s all in the mind. It’s all in the beliefs we hold.  And it all shows and explain very well, what is the nature of beliefs. They are ideas that we hold to and impose in our perception unto reality. Even though they are not part of reality. But the mind allows and support us to continue believing in anything we might want — BECAUSE it has no connection to reality.

The very fact that we can believe ‘what we want’ shows that we have no connection with reality through our minds. It shows that when beliefs are held over the physical — it’s the basis of abuse of the physical. Because life is not in the mind. Life is and is based on what is physical. Therefore, when anyone is saying to hold beliefs over anything — it’s like saying ‘don’t look at those that suffer, just forget about living beings’. Because what every living thing experience here on this earth, has nothing to do with beliefs. It is what it is in fact. It has nothing to do with any bullshit story people conjure up for any personal reason.

And so we end up with the world as we know it today. When we as people cannot even agree unto a direction for the world in anyway whatsoever — it’s extremely difficult even for two people to really agree about what they think about reality. A world where blinded mesmerized zombies walk and rule over this planet without any direction, each mesmerized by their own bubble of reality that they hold in their head. Oblivious to reality and what is really going on, as long as it doesn’t affect them and their individual bubble-reality built up in the mind. And if it does, then the person in trouble is left alone. Because the other ‘mesmerized zombies’ are to busy with their personal beliefs, opinions and  experiences. And because they are ‘free to believe what they want’ — they conveniently establish belief systems, that exclude those who ‘failed’ or had ‘bad luck’ in the world system. And that works as long as it’s not you… Then, well then you’ll get excluded, and people will become ‘blind’ to your case, because their belief systems where they try to deny their fear will kick in as defense mechanisms that they develop so strongly for their entire lives.

I would say that it’s more reasonable to have a look how we as people, as the beings responsible for how this world is set up — to see what is going on, stop denying it, and agree to a direction and solution that needs to be taken, so life won’t be less then money (as it currently is). Money should be just a tool. If you agree, and are willing/interested to find a solution that would be best for all, and to which all can agree. Checkout Desteni and Equal Money websites. We’re a group of  people that do agree that the system we live in currently is greatly flawed, and that we need to reestablish it, so it’ll support life, instead of fear and greed.

2012: How religion can mess up people’s lives — marriage

This is quite an ‘old one’, but as I notice — it is still ‘there somewhere’ in people’s minds, and it has a potential to have a big impact on people’s lives. And the issue I’ll be writing about is how the rules that religions impose on what marriages should be like, are causing a great amount of problems and unnecessary abuse. And therefore, how religion supports abuse, as religion is an abusive and misleading institution.

I’ve been raised in Europe, and in my country catholicism is the dominant religion, so I’ll be addressing this point from this perspective. So, what’s the big deal with having something against the church supporting marriage and presenting guidelines and rules about what marriage should be like? Well there is something that is completely unacceptable, and is similar in it’s nonsense to the church’s position regarding not using condoms. Why? Well, how irresponsible it is to tell people to not have sex before marriage, or to not leave a marriage because it’s ‘bad’? I mean, people want and need to have sex, and will go far out of their way to satisfy that need, and can get blinded by that desire. Now the catholic church is telling people to not have sex, before marriage. This way they are making people to go into lifelong  commitments, without being clear about what they’re doing — because they are driven by the desire to have sex, and the church tells them to not satisfy that need until they make a commitment that will have consequences, and will not be so easy to get out from. On top of that the church doesn’t accept breaking marriages.

It is a clear nonsense, but the stupidity of this kind of approach isn’t the problem itself. What is the problem, is that this way people get caught into relationships that they wouldn’t really went to if they could see more clearly, and wouldn’t be blinded by this desire for sex. I mean it’s common sense, that people before making a commitment, should really spend time with each other, and should know each other for at least few years in day-to-day close proximity to make such a decision. And the catholic way of approaching this issue is a complete misunderstanding, that can make people miserable and full of regret for the rest of their lives. I mean — this is freakin’ simple. The fact that people followed those kinds of rules, just shows how people are unable to use common sense at all. And that we really require to work on our common sense, and on how we see reality, because it has never worked. If you think you’re smarter then all other people, then you’re blinded by your ego the same way how those who followed those rules were. Because that is how we are separated in this world. Each one of us, is able to see only a part of reality, and is able to see how others are blind to the part that we might understand. But in this state, we don’t see or realize that we are blind in the exact same way to something else. And someone else is looking at us in the exact same way. And in the end, we never, ever get to conclusions together, and we don’t develop common sense.

I mean, come on — how long has it been for our civilization, and we still have such insane rules that people are following? The church tells people to not use condoms? Or to not have sex before marriage? Can’t we use common sense, and decide what’s best for us? We have research — psychology tells us that people can be blindly in love for 1~2 years. So why would we want to add up the ‘no sex before marriage thing’ on top of that — to make ourselves blind even more? That is clear stupidity, and an absolute lack of common sense. It’s all based on believing in our thoughts and emotions. But our emotions and thoughts can be manipulated. I mean, it’s freaking simple. It happens all the time in the modern world (like TV, commercials). Bah — we even pay for getting our emotions and feelings manipulated, and we call that entertainment.

Why can’t we add 1 to 1, and see ourselves in every other living thing that we encounter? We could then actually learn from others, and from their experience. Instead we constantly repeat the same mistakes. The dichotomy between the young and old generation is constant. Even though they young are driven by their ego, believing that they can be and achieve anything — while the older generation is trying to tell the young about the mistakes they did, and prevent them from doing that, but since they’re also driven by their egos — the young will never listen. Then the young turns into their parents, doing exactly same, and the next young generation will do exactly the same what their parents did. Which is pretty messed up. Because we never get to an understanding and a common ground. It’s constantly the same cycle repeating itself. And making it impossible for people to establish common sense approach to life — because it would require everyone to experience a variety of situations, so that they would be able to develop a realistic view on life, where they would be able to agree.

Which is why we have to learn to see ourselves in everyone else, and learn to put aside our egos, and actually learn something about life from each other. Because life is currently a subject to a continuous cycle, of which we’re only a part of for a short time. And life’s ‘great mystery’ is constantly here, we are it with every other living being (plant, bug or animal). And whether life will be heaven or hell, is only in life’s hands. And guess what — out of all the species on earth, the human is the super-hero among other beings. It has supreme powers and abilities (I mean compare yourself to a plant or an animal). While, we don’t see ourselves as responsible — instead we follow rules, that other people told us god has created? Isn’t it just a try to run away from the responsibility we have as superior beings on this planet? Same with aliens and ufos saving us. It’s just our mass want for someone else to take the responsibility for ourselves and ‘fix’ everything for us. Which only creates more pain, and abuse and allows some brainwashed preachers to confuse and mislead people into harming themselves, because they don’t promote taking self-responsibility, but just following some rules. When will we actually ‘take the wheel and drive’, taking self-responsibility? Because so far we’re driving in a car where lunatics are in the driver’s seat. I would strongly suggest not to get into that car — I know that I won’t. And take note that at least I’m actually suggesting something I will do, not like catholic priests talking about what rules to follow in regards to marriage.

2012: Doubt vs conviction — two sides of the same coin

Both doubt and conviction, even though valued and perceived differently, have the same nature. Both are just ideas that we hold in the mind, that we believe to be true, and act or do not act in certain ways, just … Continue reading →

2012: Religion supports abuse

As the titles says: religion is supporting abuse. And it supports it – because it distracts and misdirect people from understanding reality, from a 1+1=2 mathematical reasoning. So religion is saying to – in short – not understand reality, and … Continue reading →

2012: Questioning psychology

Psychology is the study about the way how the mind works. To be exact, according to Cambridge online dictionary psychology is the scientific study of the way the human mind works and how it influences behaviour, or the influence of … Continue reading →

2012: Labels as mind control

In my previous blogpost titled Dealing with labels I’ve written about basics of how labels can be abused to control someone, and how labels that exist within us as trigger points can control us. This time I will be expanding … Continue reading →

2012: Dealing with labels

The definition of the word label according to Cambridge dictionary is the following: 1. a piece of paper or other material which gives you information about the object it is fixed to; 2.  a word or a phrase which is … Continue reading →

2012: Culture in itself is not a value

Culture as a value is a completely misguided idea. I am constantly being amazed with how much importance and value people attach to culture, cultural legacies, nationality etc. Because it’s basically just the way people ‘do things’. Like if a … Continue reading →